Teenage girl “no longer recognizes her family” after severe nervous breakdown
Heartbroken parents of 14-year-old Rose Grady say she no longer recognizes her family after suffering severe mental breakdown
Image: Susie Grady)
Heartbroken parents of a 14-year-old girl say she no longer recognizes her family after suffering a severe mental breakdown.
Teenage Rose Grady faces regular episodes of psychosis and hallucinations, her devastated mother says.
She can no longer perform basic tasks, such as feeding or cleaning herself.
Rose has been in the children’s ward at her local hospital for three months and her condition has only deteriorated over time.
Rose’s mother, Susie, said HertfordshireLive of a desperate time for the family.
“She is very depressed,” said the parent. “She doesn’t want to be here. She thinks it’s no use. She feels like she’s trapped, locked in a room.
“She doesn’t have any socialization with other children and she doesn’t see her friends. She doesn’t talk to her friends. She doesn’t talk to her family.
Before the pandemic, Rose was a happy teenager and had a group of close friends. She swam for her local swim club, played the piano, and predicted top grades in school.
But when the lockdown hit last year, the school and all of its extracurricular activities came to a screeching halt.
“I think it was very difficult for teenagers to understand why they couldn’t see their friends or why they couldn’t do anything a normal teenager does,” explained Susie.
“They were just spending too much time in their rooms and not doing anything particularly healthy.”
The family had to deal with heartbreaking news as Susie’s mother was diagnosed with degenerative brain disease and her father fell ill with cancer.
Then the local area was moved to Level 4 before Christmas, meaning they couldn’t celebrate as they had hoped, and a beloved pet died, causing them to tip over.
It was around Christmas that Rose began to eat less and less. She felt pressured to restrict her food intake and became depressed and withdrawn.
“She didn’t want to leave her room,” added Susie. “She was really, really unhappy. She didn’t think anything good about her life.
“The school was closed again so there was just a lot of time in our room for online learning. I actually think it was pretty damaging.
Susie and her husband sought advice from their GP, but Rose was not diagnosed. The family has yet to be diagnosed.
“They wanted to do more testing on her because she’s still presented as a pretty complex case,” Susie explained.
“But then, unfortunately, Rose took matters into her own hands and basically decided that was enough and that she wasn’t going to go on living.” So we had to take him to A&E.
Rose was admitted to hospital that night of April 30. She has stayed there ever since.
The teenager is now back to normal weight as she has been given more than 2,000 calories per day per tube since admission, but her mental health has deteriorated in other ways as she battles psychosis and hallucinations.
Susie said, “They can’t take care of it at Harlow Hospital because it’s a general children’s ward. This is not an intensive care unit for what Rose needs.
“It’s really impossible. She’s just in the wrong building.”
Susie is in the hospital every day, waiting in the hallway in case something happens, making phone calls to try to get help from Rose, and staying up to date with the doctors.
“I’m just sitting in the hall like a security guard,” Susie said.
“I talk to the doctors, then I go home and recharge for another day. It is very monotonous but very stressful.
She added: “Some of the things they have to do to Rose every day are quite high risk. She has feeding tubes that they put on every day and at any time it could go wrong and I could get a call saying you have to be here in half an hour.
“It split the family in half,” Susie said.
“My other daughter really doesn’t understand why she can’t see her sister and asks when her sister is coming home. These are questions that I cannot answer at the moment.
Rose might need a PICU bed for six months to a year. If she was in a private mental hospital for 12 months it could cost the family around £ 350,000.
Susie added, “You can’t talk to her. She really needs talk therapy to get started, but they can’t do it right now because she’s so agitated and anxious that we’re still not at the point where anyone can talk to her.
“It got a lot worse. When she was admitted, I brought her home from school. She knew who her family were. She knew who I was.
“If you saw her or talked to her, you would think there was nothing wrong at all.
“But now she’s in a whole different shape. She is very distressed. She desperately needs one of these intensive care beds.