Fatherless Homes Linked to Mental Illness and Mass Shootings: Author Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell, author of ‘The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It’, found that being ‘deprived of one’s father’ is a major factor in increasing illness mental illness, addiction and suicide among men.

He links mass shootings in 53 developed countries to boys and men who lacked a father figure, and he specifically mentioned six mass shootings that occurred in the United States in the 21st century.

“The six mass school shootings that killed more than 10 people were perpetrated by boys, and all six were perpetrated by boys who were ‘deprived of their father’, from Sandy Hook to the shooting in Texas,” Farrell said in a recent interview for EpochTV’s “American Thought Leaders.”

Farrell was referring to the 2012 shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut, and the May 24, 2022 shooting at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde, Texas.

He said girls grow up in the same environment as boys, with access to the same media, video games and guns and facing the same mental health issues, but they don’t commit any of the shootings.

Farrell has made it his mission to educate lawmakers about the importance of fathers in the lives of children, especially young boys. His efforts have resulted in the enactment of laws in Florida and Kentucky that recognize the crucial role of the father, especially in divorce cases.

According to United States Census Bureaua single mother living with her child(ren) is the second most common living arrangement in the United States, a number that has doubled in the past 50 years.

In 2020, 21% of children, or about 15.3 million, lived only with their mother, up from 11%, or 7.6 million, in 1968.

Florida Governor Ron DeSantis speaks during a press conference held at the Cox Science Center & Aquarium in West Palm Beach, Fla. on June 8, 2022. (Joe Raedle/Getty Images)

States take action

The Florida Legislature recently passed HB 7065, which allocated $70 million in funding to provide a wide range of supports for families and youth through the Department of Juvenile Justice (DJJ) and the Department of Children and families (DCF).

“There are over 18 million children in our country who live without a father at home,” said Governor Ron DeSantis when he signed the bill into law on April 22. “It has a serious impact on children and often leads to school dropouts, crime and drug abuse. Incredibly, there are those who diminish the importance of fatherhood and the nuclear family – we won’t let that happen in our state. I’m proud to say that we’re doing everything we can to support the fatherhood involved in Florida.

In 2018, Kentucky Governor Matt Bevin signed a bill that automatically presumes that both parents will share equal custody of the children in the event of a divorce, while leaving judges with discretion to limit shared custody if the one of the parents is incapacitated.

Farrell said it’s good that Florida and Kentucky have taken these steps, but overall the fatherlessness crisis is still averted.

Farrell mentioned the work of psychologist Richard Warshak, who found that children who spend time with their mother and father after divorce did better later in life and that father presence was more important than variables. economic.

Farrell said Warshak’s study found 100% of academics agreed that children raised without fathers had the biggest problems.

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A father reads to his daughter in this file photo. (Monkey Business Images/Shutterstock)

Farrell said he served on the board of directors of the National Organization for Women (NOW) in New York and has spoken globally on women’s issues, so he tends to agree with Democratic thinking on these issues.

When he traveled to Iowa during the 2020 presidential election to speak with Democratic candidates, Farrell said the candidates John Hickenlooper and Andrew Yang agreed with him on the fatherless epidemic.

“Their country managers, when they or they started at see this their candidates were to agree with me, both of their country managers has come at the top at me and said,Warren, we can not afford at have our candidates talk out on the importance of boys having the fathers and a plot of dad participation, because were fear at alienate our feminist base.'”

This came as no surprise to Farrell who, having worked in a leadership role in a feminist organization, had seen this type of thinking and the marginalization of fathers before. These organizations do not put the interests of the children first, but rather the mother, Farrell said.

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Farrell said children do better after a divorce when they spend equal time with mother and father, and especially when there is communication and a balanced contribution from both parents. Every parent brings strengths to raising a child: Mothers tend to set limits and praise their children while fathers set limits and allow children to take risks, Farrell said.

“In their enforcement of borders, [dads] build discipline for the child to accomplish deferred gratification and focus on attention to detail,” he said. “Children raised primarily by fathers are much less likely to have ADHD because they have to focus on what they are actually doing.”

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A boy plays with toy dinosaurs with his dad in this file photo. (fizkes/Shutterstock)

The boys who carried out these mass school shootings suffered from not having a strong, caring male role model. On top of that, boys are often told their feelings don’t matter, which leads to emotional toxicity, Farrell said.

“Boys who don’t have a father, very often they’re not likely to have that delayed gratification that comes from enforcing boundaries. As a result, they start not doing well in school,” Farrell said.

He said he talked to boys in high school, and the boys said what they learned in school about gender issues is toxic masculinity, with no understanding of the sacrifices men made that led to this toxicity, as well as the concept of “patriarchy,” Farrell said.

Modern feminist ideology hurts boys

Farrell said boys suffer because they are told their masculinity is wrong.

“The world was not dominated by a patriarchy. It was dominated by the need to survive, and in order to survive, men and women were limited in their roles,” Farrell said, adding that feminism blames men for societal problems and ignores the sacrifices people make. they do for their families. .

“We constantly give boys a negative image of themselves that leads to low self-esteem, which leads to them needing compensation,” he said.

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Protesters attend the ‘March4Women’ on International Women’s Day in London on March 8, 2020. (Tolga Akmen/AFP via Getty Images)

Farrell said while trying to do good, he also blames himself for being a member of the NOW board for three years, where these harmful feminist ideas that hurt boys, and ultimately girls, spread. .

Farrell started his work for equal rights for women because he believed in the creed “I am a woman, I am strong”, but now he says he does not support feminism because the feminist movement has become “I am a woman, I have been wronged.

This type of thinking hurts boys, he said, and it needs to change so that both boys and girls can benefit from a father’s full contribution to their lives.

Advice for single mothers

Farrell advises all single mothers to let the biological father know that he is very needed, and he will respond well.

“When you say, ‘I now see the positive value of your brutality, you’re teasing, you’re allowing our son or our daughter to take the risk of walking in a lake and maybe getting lost,’ and that than it does, then the dad will say, “Okay, if I can be appreciated, now I’ll be back,” Farrell said

If the biological father cannot be involved, Farrell suggests enrolling the boys in groups or team sports, where other male role models can help shape their character.

He advises parents to connect with their children, to listen instead of trying to solve their children’s problems, and to have media-free family dinners so they can practice those listening skills and deepen understanding. relationship.

“Empathetic parents who are only empathetic create self-centered children, thinking that only their needs are taken care of,” he said. “So you have to both empathize and demand that your children listen to your point of view as well.”

Based on her work with counseling couples, Farrell said listening needs to extend beyond the children to the spouse or ex-spouse so that there is respectful and healthy communication.

Co-parenting couples need to realize that neither parent intends to harm their child, Farrell said.

Adults need to “learn how to hear those we aren’t initially inclined to hear and know how to be criticized by the people we love without becoming defensive,” Farrell said.

Masooma Haq

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Masooma Haq began reporting for The Epoch Times from Pakistan in 2008. She currently covers a variety of topics, including US government, culture and entertainment.

Jan Jekielek

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Jan Jekielek is an editor for the Epoch Times and host of “American Thought Leaders.” Jan’s career has spanned academia, the media and international human rights work. In 2009, he joined The Epoch Times full-time and held various positions, including editor-in-chief of the website. He is the producer of the award-winning Holocaust documentary film “Finding Manny”.

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